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The best sex toys for using alone or with a partner

Add pleasure to your self-care to-do list with our pick of the best massagers, vibrators and rabbits for women to shop in 2022

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New to the world of sex toys and not sure where to start? First things first, don't be scared. While gadgets designed with the bedroom in mind might look intimidating to a novice, in amongst those brightly coloured buzzing curves and ridges, a whole world of pleasure awaits.

Finding the best sex toys for you is no mean feat. To maximise your satisfaction it's worth knowing how, what and why the right sex toys can transform your love life. Keep scrolling for the benefits of USB-powered pleasure, plus our pick of the the best sex toys on the market right now...

The benefits of using sex toys

Sex toys come with a surprising number of mind-body benefits for both solo masturbation and fun with a partner, so consider it an act of self-care.

"The benefits of using sex toys and having orgasms in general are endless," says Kelly Gordon, Creative Director at Hot Octopuss and sex positive podcast host at Pleasure Rebels. "Orgasms have been known to help with everything from pain relief and better sleep, to better circulatory health and glowing skin. What's more, orgasms and sexual pleasure also release happy hormones that make you feel amazing and reduce stress while you are experiencing pleasure, during and afterwards!"

What sex toy should you buy?

Sex tech is constantly evolving and there is always something new to try. But generally speaking traditional sex toys for women fall into a few key categories including vibrators, clitoral stimulators, G-spot stimulators, love eggs and butt plugs. So, think about what type of pleasure you typically prefer before making a purchase.

"For someone looking to try sex toys for the first time I would advise them to really think about what they like, how they like to be touched, or how they touch themselves when they masturbate," suggests Kelly. "When it comes to vulva products, you can often select toys based on the area of stimulation you prefer, for example G-spot or clitoral, internal or external."

According to Kelly, it's also important that you shop for yourself and not with your partner in mind. "Countless people, myself included, say the first sex toy they brought was one they thought their partner would enjoy – often something big and rigid," she says. "As a society we are so focused on penetration, that we are automatically drawn to these objects that represent penises and penetration. However if you ask most vulva-owners, their go-to sex toys are usually something smaller and more directed at their own pleasure."

How to make the most of sex toys

For beginners, the best way to approach sex toys is with enthusiasm and an open mind, not to mention ample sex lube. "For the first time, I can’t stress enough that you should have a clear mind and no preconceptions," says Kelly. "Also try not to have any goals, such as, 'I want this toy to give me an orgasm quickly', this kind of thing adds immense pressure and often means you won’t achieve what you set out to.

"Relax, clear your mind, even take your toy into the bath with you as there are so many fantastic waterproof toys you can use," she adds. "Enjoy the whole experience, let your mind wander and explore your fantasies!"

The best sex toys to shop now

To help you get started, keep scrolling for the 13 most popular types of gadgets for women to use alone or with a partner, including vibrators, clitoral stimulators and butt plugs, plus our pick of the best versions of each one.

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BEST MASSAGE WAND SEX TOY

Le Wand Massage Wand Vibrator

Massage Wand Vibrator
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BEST MASSAGE WAND SEX TOY

Le Wand Massage Wand Vibrator

£140 at Lovehoney

Massage wands are often fairly large, but don't be alarmed by the size. They're designed with external stimulation in mind, and this one promises to deliver delightful rumbly sensations direct to your most sensitive bits. It comes with a flexible head to help you easily target the parts that make you sing, plus 10 intensity settings across 20 patterns to play with once you get there.

Waterproof: splash proof

How it feels: medium soft silicone

What's included: travel case and charging cable with plug adaptors.

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BEST CLITORAL STIMULATION SEX TOY

Womanizer Pro40

Pro40
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BEST CLITORAL STIMULATION SEX TOY

Womanizer Pro40

Now 25% Off

Relatively new to the world of sex toys, this innovative gadget combines airwaves with vibrations to replicate authentic cunnilingus, and all without any direct clitoral contact. It's best described as a combination of pulsating airwaves mixed with six levels of vibration, leading to clitoral-targeted pleasure galore.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: rigid silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable.

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BEST BULLET VIBRATOR SEX TOY

Ricky, £59.95 Deluxe Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator

Deluxe Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator
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BEST BULLET VIBRATOR SEX TOY

Ricky, £59.95 Deluxe Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator

If you're a sex toy novice, the bullet is a great starting point. This small but mighty vibe is designed with clitoral stimulation in mind, but it can be pleasingly applied to any external erogenous zone for kicks. It comes with nine settings, so you can experiment until you find the pattern that appeals. And if you find direct stimulation too intense, a small recess within the handle can help take the pressure off.

Waterproof: splash proof

How it feels: soft silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable.

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BEST CLITORAL VIBRATOR SEX TOY

Mantric Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator

Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator
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BEST CLITORAL VIBRATOR SEX TOY

Mantric Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator

This simple but effective sex toy works in a similar way to a bullet. But, the clever pebble design covers extra surface area, removing the need to pinpoint your sweet spot. It's great for both solo fun or partnered sex. Simply press it gently against your clit during penetrative sex to tingle you into submission.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: rigid silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable.

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BEST VIBRATING COCK RING SEX TOY

Lovehoney Silicone Love Ring

Silicone Love Ring
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BEST VIBRATING COCK RING SEX TOY

Lovehoney Silicone Love Ring

If you don't usually climax during penetrative sex, it's worth inviting a vibrating cock ring into the bedroom. Simply slip the twin silicone rings onto your partner’s penis and let the well-placed nubs massage you to orgasm. And for him, the tight grip of the rings combined with the sight of his lover in a state of sexual ecstasy will no doubt blow his socks off.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: soft silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable.

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BEST RABBIT VIBRATOR SEX TOY

Kandid Rabbit Sex Toy

Rabbit Sex Toy
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BEST RABBIT VIBRATOR SEX TOY

Kandid Rabbit Sex Toy

Designed to penetrate you like a penis while stimulating your clitoris at the same time, this seriously popular sex toy is essentially a vibrator. But a movable nub at the base of the shaft (sometimes shaped like rabbit ears, hence the name) gives it the edge. Thanks to a smooth silicone exterior plus twin motors to target both your clitoris and your G-spot, you'll be hopping mad for bedtime. Plus with a sound intensity measuring less than 40dB, it's reassuringly quiet if you need some privacy.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: soft silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable.

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BEST WEARABLE SEX TOY

Lelo Tiani 3

Tiani 3
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BEST WEARABLE SEX TOY

Lelo Tiani 3

Wearable sex toys are fairly new on the scene but are proving to be seriously popular for partnered sex. Simply slip one arm inside your vagina while the other arm reaches around to target your clitoris, and revel in the ultimate sensory experience. Meanwhile, there's room for him to join the party, so you can still enjoy penetrative sex and the toy will simultaneously stimulate his shaft. To really turn the heat up, just add lube.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: rigid silicone

What's included: comes with a remote control, USB charging cable and storage pouch.

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BEST APP CONTROLLED SEX TOY

Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator

Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator
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BEST APP CONTROLLED SEX TOY

Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator

A must-have if you're in a long distance romance, thanks to smartphone technology you don’t even need to be in the same city as your lover to climax. Simply pop in your wearable sex toy and let your partner control the settings via an app. However, it works equally well from the kitchen, so try experimenting from different rooms in the house and see where the three speeds and four pleasure patterns take you.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: medium soft silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable. Connect to the app to control the settings.

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BEST G-SPOT AND CLITORAL STIMULATOR

Womanizer InsideOut Rechargeable G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulator

InsideOut Rechargeable G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulator
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BEST G-SPOT AND CLITORAL STIMULATOR

Womanizer InsideOut Rechargeable G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulator

Legend has it, women climax either vaginally or via clitoral stimulation, and the G-spot is an internal erogenous zone credited with delivering the former. However, it is notoriously tricky for women to reach orgasm through penetrative sex alone (according to studies, only 18% achieve this). Thankfully sex tech engineers have come to the rescue and now you can double your chances. This clever toy targets both erogenous zones at the same time, combining a motorised G-spot tip with a clitoral suction stimulator. You can even control the functions separately! Multiple orgasms? Yes please.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: rigid silicone

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable.

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BEST VIBRATING LOVE EGGS

Adrien Lastic Alive 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Love Egg

Alive 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Love Egg
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BEST VIBRATING LOVE EGGS

Adrien Lastic Alive 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Love Egg

Now 60% Off

Also known as Ben Wa or kegal balls, love eggs are worn internally and work by creating oscillating vibrations as you move. But, the battery powered version means you can sit still while the eggs buzz you into submission, plus it can be controlled from 10-15 metres away if you fancy a bit of foreplay. Anecdotally women have been using eggs for thousands of years to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles and boost sensation, but frankly it also just feels really nice.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: rigid plastic

What's included: remote control plus 2 x AAA batteries for the balls and 1 x A23 battery for the remote.

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BEST SUSTAINABLE SEX TOY

Love Not War Koi Wand Vibrator

Koi Wand Vibrator
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BEST SUSTAINABLE SEX TOY

Love Not War Koi Wand Vibrator

If you pause to consider the impact disposable gadgets can have on the environment, it pays to invest in sustainable and eco-friendly hardware. Thanks to FDA-grade silicone, predominantly recycled materials and an interchangeable battery base, this handy vibe from new UK brand Love Not War puts sustainability centre stage, leaving you to focus on the job at hand: orgasms. This wand isn't just good for the planet though. Thanks to delicious rolling vibrations and a head that's big enough to stimulate all your sensitive bits, look forward to maximum pleasure for your money.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: soft silicone head

What's included: comes with a USB charging cable and storage bag.

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BEST BUTT PLUG SEX TOY

Rocks Off Ass Berry Vibrating Butt Plug

Ass Berry Vibrating Butt Plug
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BEST BUTT PLUG SEX TOY

Rocks Off Ass Berry Vibrating Butt Plug

We'd be remiss to publish a best sex toys list without mentioning this type of toy at least once. If you're on the fence, it's worth knowing that your bum comes with thousands of nerve endings that can ramp-up your orgasm intensity. This textured plug complete with a removable bullet vibe is ideal for beginners. Use the tapered tip to gently explore your back door and experiment with the 7 function bullet to set the pace. If you choose to use it with your partner, establish a safe word before you get started in case you need to slow things down. And don't forget to use plenty of lube.

Waterproof: submersible

How it feels: firm silicone

What's included: 1 x N battery included.

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BEST WARMING SEX TOY

Lora di Carlo Versatile Vibrating & Warming Plug, £135

Versatile Vibrating & Warming Plug, £135
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BEST WARMING SEX TOY

Lora di Carlo Versatile Vibrating & Warming Plug, £135

This futuristic looking sex toy features vibrating arms for simultaneous clitoral and perineal stimulation. But what really sets it apart from the pack is the additional warming feature, gently heating up to just above body temperature to help things get steamy. Just add lube.

Waterproof: splash proof

How it feels: smooth bulb head and flexible base

What's included: comes with a remote control, USB charging cable and travel pouch.

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